What do you do when a friend calls and invites you to join
her and thirteen of her friends for a girls only house party in Tamarindo,
Costa Rica? Even though you don’t know
any of the other women attending, you say HELL YES!

Named for its indoor and outdoor waterfalls, Cascada Villa,
is a six bedroom oasis located on the beach, only a five minute walk from the
booming tourist town of Tamarindo. Just
an hour’s drive southeast of Liberia, Tamarindo had a dry tropical climate, unlike
the rain forests in other parts of the country.


(The outdoor master bedroom shower)

(View from the master shower)
The women are an eclectic mix, from an executive at Intel in Albuquerque, a
hotel owner in Silver City, NM and a medical marketing CEO from Dallas. Our ages range from 22 to over 70. The majority of the women are from the Silver
City, NM area and are mourning the loss of a husband, father, and friend who
died in December after a long illness.
The others of us are suffering from our own bereavements or major
emotional upheavals. We are looking for
a pause in the emotional storm that life has given us, a place to be surrounded
by love, friendship and healing.
When I travel with friends and family, our roles have
already been established. I am usually
the planner and organizer. Meeting thirteen new people at different stages in
their lives, with ingrained relationships already in place is challenging. Where do I fit in, especially when I am
trying not to do the thing that I
always do? After the last three months,
I need to back away and relax.
The first morning dawns and I find myself wanting to do
everything and nothing.
I settle for lunch with five others at a beach restaurant
called La Palapa .
We share a seafood
feast of lobster, red snapper, mussels, calamari and shrimp.
The conversation flows naturally as we bond
over a communal meal. Enrique, our
waiter, brings us complimentary shooters
of Guaro (Costa Rican Rum) and coconut cream.
We promptly name these “bra busters”, the
perfect partner for the “panty ripper” (Caribbean rum and pineapple juice) that
I am drinking.

(Enrique with Carol and Jana)
After another round of
complimentary shooters (and a BIG TIP for Enrique), we head back to the house
for an afternoon by the pool.

Already we are opening up to each other, trusting and
allowing that we are in the right place at the right time for the right
reason.